10 Reasons Why Your Husband Will Always Be Faster & Stronger Than You

Doesn’t that headline just irk you? I certainly does me.

I was born in a lucky generation… where girls and boys were treated some what equal. My mom used to tell me all the time, you can do whatever your brother does. Just as well.

Oh yea? Then why can my smoking, 33 year old brother, smoke me in a 100 meter sprint?

Why is it that no matter how hard I work to get stronger, Dan makes strength gains so much faster than I can even dream? Here I am happy that I was able to add 20 extra pounds to my deadlift, I look over and he’s adding 50?


What gives!?

Sadly ladies here’s the truth…

Men will always be faster, stronger, and progress faster with exercise progression than women. 


That sucks. Let me clarify something… this is comparing men and women who train equally. Of course, if your husband is out of shape, you’ll likely out perform him. This is why I love running distance, I know I can out run Dan any day of the week (he’s okay with that).

While I knew this to be true, I never really thought about the “whys” until reading The Sports Gene by David Epstein.

To be honest, learning the whys have made me feel better. I’m a-okay somewhat fine with Dan beating when we do 40 m sprints, knowing that it’s not me… it’s him. 

10 Reasons Why Men Will Always Be Faster And Stronger

stronger than women

1. Men have 2x as much muscle as women.

You would think that this would make them twice as strong, right? Kind of. Men are twice as strong in their upper bodies, and about two-thirds stronger in their lower bodies.

2. Men have naturally 50% less fat than women.

15% of a man’s physique is composed of fat while a woman is 27%. Leaner bodies make for faster individuals. However, women burn fat vs carbs differently than men, and evidence suggest we may hold the upper hand at ultra-endurance sports!

3. Men have larger hearts.

They are able to pump out about 16% more liters of blood per heart beat… which means more oxygen to the muscles beneficial for cardio and strength training.

4. Men have larger lungs.

Like their hearts, this means more oxygen throughout their bodies with each breath. Number wise, they have a 25-30% high oxygen consumption than women.

5. Women have less red blood cells moving throughout their bodies.

Red blood cells carry oxygenated blood to muscles and other tissue. Helping not only during exercise, but also allows for men to recover faster from training.

6. Lack of hips.

We all know women are blessed with hips to handle pregnancy, but seriously, we’re fine giving those up! The wideness of the hips cause our femurs (the large leg bones that go from the hip to the knee) to be placed at a different angle than a mans. This angle difference allows them to run faster and more efficiently.

7. Men are hormonal.

This one shouldn’t come as a surprise, men produce large amounts of testosterone while women produce estrogen. We all know that testosterone helps to build muscle but what I find interesting is that it’s also linked to competitiveness… making men potentially more competitive than women. They have that edge that encourages them to win, failure isn’t an option.

8. Longer legs = long strides.

The average US man is just a bit taller than 5 Ft 9 In, while the average woman is 5 Ft 4 In… the longer legs of men yield to a longer stride, which means they go faster.

Dan is about 6’1, my 5’5 frame doesn’t stand a chance in a speed race.

9. Men are more efficient at cooling off.

Men sweat, while women glisten, right? What that really means is that men are able to cool themselves off more efficiently than women. Us ladies, on the other hand, tend to flush during physical exertion which actually hurts us due to it’s inefficiency for maintaining energy.

10. It’s all mental.

From the time a baby boy begins to crawl, his parents are filling him with dreams of sports and athletics. They are picturing college scholarships and urging him to be competitive. Girls on the other hand aren’t bred this way. Being competitive is something many women are timid about, they hold back. Part of it may be the testosterone, as mentioned above, but the other part is simply how boys and girls are raised.

I saw my older brother excelling in sports at a young age and I think that was enough to fuel my own competitiveness.

Is your husband/significant other a natural athlete? 

Do you get mad that your guy is better at physical activities? 

I don’t get mad that Dan is better, I get upset that he gets better faster. I can work my ass off for improvements, while he seems to get better at something in the blink of an eye. Right now he’s working on running a 5K and his goal is a time that took me years to accomplish. Not. Cool.

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  • i grew up with 3 brothers, i definitely know this and can appreciate it. But then again, i am not competitive with my husband or myself really. haha

    • Wow 3 brothers? 1 was hard enough haha.

  • Kim

    HaHa – this title made me laugh – gonna have to show it to Chris! Chris is definitely a natural athlete – most things come easily to him. And even if he hasn’t worked out in awhile, he can always do more push-ups and pull-ups than me.
    However, I can always beat him at running – anything from 400m and up (we’ve never tried shorter)!!! It helps that he is only an inch taller than me and my legs are longer!!!

    • Dan’s the same way. It all comes natural to him. We’ve never tried 400s together, that might be a close call!

  • So true. I think the differences are fascinating, though also extremely frustrating. I work out all the time, and my hubby never does anything. However, when we hike, he keeps up with me 110% – or can even go further!

    • Exactly! It’s nice to have him be able to keep up, so you’re not waiting for him… but at the same time it’s like “really??”

  • Kasia

    My brother and my boyfriend are best friends. The three of us like to hike a lot. But no matter how hard I’m training, how much performance-training I do, how much endurance I get, I just simply can’t keep up to them. It sucks because they sometimes look at me as if I’m the weak link. Booo…
    None of them can swim 1.5km in a time under 35 minutes, and guess who can? ^^

    • Haha, love the swim strength! That’s great. I need to get back in a pool!

  • I typically do mostly cardio (running, Zumba and other aerobics) as a form of exercise, my husband does mostly strength training. Sometimes we’ll go for a bike ride together and I’m huffing and puffing he’s just gracefully rolling wrong. Truth be told…it kind of ticks me off, since most of the exercise I do is cardio. He knows it makes me mad and he’s really good about it and is sensitive to my feelings, but it’s definitely frustrating for me. I can do all those different types of cardio, but biking gets me every time. Sigh!

    • I completely agree! Went through the same thing biking on vacation and Dan dominated. Boo.

  • Josh can take on any sport and rock it. Seriously- its insane.

    • Dan’s the same, drives me crazy. Haha

  • I don’t have a husband or hips. #winning

    • Hahaha! Yup, can’t use the hip excuse myself.

  • D

    My boyfriend was playing soccer since he was three; if he had to do life over again, he would probably be a super futbol star playing in England. He’s very talented in the sport and spent over 30 years training so yeah i’ll give him that. But I’m super competitive, rocked out 55 burpees yesterday (with pushups, along with a killer HIIT strength circuit I did before my burpee finisher), and can leap pretty far forward for my short 5’2 frame. To say that the man will always be stronger than the woman is BS. Yes they are more muscular but the majority of that is in their upper body, while woman have the ability to be stronger than men in their lower bodies. Women (depending on body type) can typically gain muscle, strength, and inches soooo fast to their glutes and rest of lower body by squatting, deadlifting, hip thrusting, glute bridging that she can bump the amount of weight she uses within two short weeks (I’m proof and my frame is lean). I also believe that, although biology plays a huge part in strength, society perpetuates the idea that women are frail, weak, human beings despite the fact that we are built to nurture another creature inside of us, deliver that creature, and nurture it when it is born. We also have a higher tolerance for pain so we can handle the heavy lifting. My mom (53 years old, 5’2 about 145lbs with 4 kids and 2 grandbabies) can leg press close to 400lbs, squat over 300lbs and rock out pullups with a weighted belt on while the male meatheads with chicken legs try so hard to chest press and bicep curl. I’ve seen it (proud moment for me)! Maybe the reason why women are “less stronger” than men is because our society teaches us to only do cardio while men need to lift. Doing just cardio will never improve strength and that is why your husband/boyfriend/partner will always be stronger. Lift weights and see the amount of strength you will gain and will probably be stronger than or just as strong as him! Happy lifting, ladies!

    • Thanks D for a great response! I agree on several points, however I will say that I am all about lifting weight (as evident by my blog title) and I will never outlift my husband. I totally stand behind you when I think that part of it is biology and part of it is training and the way girls are raised to avoid weights in general. Luckily, I feel that more and more women are embracing strength training and that makes me jump with excitement.

      Awesome job with those burpees! I am so impressed by your mom, that’s amazing and so motivating.Wow!

  • Gary is always reminding me off the red blood cells difference 😉
    It always bothers me how Gary can pick up any sport and be good at it so easily. grrrr

  • I felt frustrated by this today when my husband and I went for a trail run. I haven’t been in awhile, but I workout 6 days a week; he on the other hand hasn’t ran or exercised in at least a month and I was trailing behind him the whole time! So annoying!

    • 🙁 But something tells me you’ll recover faster! We found new trails yesterday and decided next weekend we would both go run together… I’m a little worried Dan will be faster than he thinks. haha.

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  • Samanthitita

    This is the truth, and it totally sucks. I’ve been training so hard I thought I was stronger than most men but I never really compete against a guy, my best girl friend who also trains told me her boyfriend was much stronger than her even when he didn’t train that much, I didn’t believe her untill we met in a beach vacation where he demonstrated he was faster running in the beach every morning and had better endurance. Then he beat us both AT THE SAME TIME in a 1 vs 2 tug of war match… then he could also lift us both in his arms without much effor, it was kinda embarrassing.

  • syed hussain

    Women were babied in the past. They are breaking the glass ceiling and entering every field. But most of the women are handicapped by their physical structure. Both men and women are important pillars of society and their roles are complimentary to each other. It may take some centuries to reverse the process where women will be bigger and stronger than men. Till then let us enjoy our beautiful , delicate and lovely women.

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