How To Accept Your Body Even If It’s Not What You Want

by TaylorR

For 4 years now I have been announcing to Dan that I will be working for a six-pack. He just rolls his eyes and says, “yea, okay”.

Thanks for the support hon’ (just for the record Dan and I don’t call each other any pet names, weird?).

But here’s why he rolls his eyes.

It isn’t because I don’t try. I do try but not with every ounce of my being. Otherwise I would be miserable, grumpy and spaced out.

Why?

Because my body is where it wants to be and if I want a 6-pack, for my specific build and body type, it means trying to convince my body that it wants to burn off more fat even though it doesn’t. It’s a tough argument to win.

I’ve done it before, but it wasn’t pretty.

This was for my figure competition, I was a “devil b*tch” (that was Dan’s name for me)… I was short fused, hungry all the time, low on energy, cold (literally because I had no fat), I had no period, and a few months after the competition I even had some hair loss.

Crazy!! In this picture I weighed in at 103 lbs… ugh and being that I am 5’5 this is nothing I would suggest aiming for.

But at least I had a 6-pack? Lol.

Needless to say after the competition was over I reintroduced carbs and quickly got myself to a healthier zone.

Currently I weigh around 116 lbs, but I look more to my body fat percentage which is at 19%…. a percentage that reflects a fit lifestyle and that I am proud of. So what if I don’t have a 6-pack? At least I am able to socialize and enjoy life and a glass of wine (or two)!

Look To The Cavewomen

Why is it so hard to hit your ideal body? Because sometimes our own bodies know better than we do as far as what our ideal weight should be.

Sure a lot of times if you experience weight loss and all of a sudden it stops, it’s because you’ve hit a plateau. Plateaus are manageable and easy to bounce back from.

But when you hit your “ideal weight” getting back on the results wagon can be hard.

We all have that “happy bracket” where when you lose weight or gain weight some how you seem to return to that number.

We’ve all know that it’s easier for a bigger person to lose weight than a smaller framed person. It is because when you get down to a particular body fat percentage and weight your body wants to hold on to everything for safety. Just incase you should get thrown out into the wilderness without food, shelter or clothing… it wants to know you have some energy stored up.

It will do everything it can to make that happen, even breaking down your muscle. Muscle takes energy to keep up and running, so if you’re low on fat already instead of burning it off, your body will decrease your muscle mass as a safety mechanism to decrease your metabolism and keep your fat.

Thank the cavewomen for this response.

Learning To Love Yourself

If you’re reading this and starting to nod your head in agreement then there are two things you can do:

  1. Accept your body for what it is and keep treating it with respect, exercise and a good diet
  2. Work your ass off and tell your body to shove it… you’re set on getting what you want.

As much as I would love to have a year long six-pack I have come to the realization that I also love wine, I love good food and I love enjoying life. I’ve learned that if I wanted to maintain a body like the photoshopped images you see on fitness magazines I wouldn’t be happy with anything, and neither would my husband (I would be making his life miserable too).

Few women would be.

It’s about learning to love and appreciate what you have already when you see yourself in the mirror. That doesn’t mean you should give up on yourself either though. I think that’s a misconception.

You can still see results in terms of toning up trouble spots. That just comes from continuing to give yourself new challenges.

How to tone up more:

  • Strength training workouts
  • Clean eating
  • Changing workouts regularly
  • Making sure to challenge yourself
Just realize that you’re not going to completely change your figure. I am really high waisted, make it look as if I have big hips. That’s just me and no matter what I can’t change it. I’ve accept it and love that I have the torso of a 5’10 woman. Don’t believe me? When I wear  a 1-piece bathing suit I have to get a size 8/10 because of my unusually long torso. It’s quite funny actually.
How To Bust Your Ass

But sometimes getting the ideal body we have in our minds isn’t what it’s all cracked up to be. And if you ask those figure competitors what they do,  you’re going to be blown away at how hard they have to work and how crazy of a diet they have to keep up with, no cheat days, no wine dates, no ice cream… basically eggs, spinach, chicken and protein.

Still thinking you want to tell your body what you think of your ideal weight? Then here are my tips for what I went through:

  1. No cheat days for 12-weeks
  2. No alcohol
  3. 2 workouts/day: strength training and cardio
  4. Carb counting. Depends on each person but my stage coach had me on just 30 grams of carbs per day
  5. No fruit after 11:00 am: no bananas/pineapple/mango ever
  6. Meticulous meal planning: eating every 3 hours.
  7. 8 Hours of sleep every night
  8. 3-4 liters of water per day
What do you think, can you handle it? Of course everyone is different but these are the things I went through to get ready for the big stage. Now I say screw it, I just finished eating an almond yogurt cream sickle. Yup, it rocked.

So if you’re at a stage where you are at a healthy weight but keep feeling as if you could go just 5 more pounds lighter, look as yourself and really think about all it is going to take to make it happen.

Fit-O-Lution Friday! 

This Friday kicks off Fit-o-lution! I am so pumped and I hope you’re going to take part! If you’re not sure what Fit-O-Lution is check it out by clicking on the image:

 

  • http://hurrafordeg.blogspot.com Priscilla P

    This post is so encouraging to me, thank you :) I’ve been unhappy with my body as of late. I exercise often but refuse to give up certain foods/alcohol, but I do lean toward the healthier options. It makes total sense that I’m not seeing the results I wish for :P haha! I’ll try harder to love my body how it is without pushing TOO hard :)

    • http://www.theartofweightlifting.com TaylorR

      I am so glad you liked it! Each day look in the mirror and instead of focusing on what you don’t like, say 1 or 2 things about yourself that you do like! :)

      • http://www.youtube.com/rachelgetsfit Rachel

        Taylor,

        I just want to say how grateful I am for your Art of Weightlifting website! I’m quite overweight, and I’m terrible at coming up with quick but challenging workouts that I can do just about anywhere. Thank you so much for putting everything in such a concise manner! You’re an inspiration! :)

        I am going to be starting a video blog on YouTube documenting my fitness/health regime using your recipes and workouts and monitoring my progress. :D

        Take care
        Rachel

        • http://www.theartofweightlifting.com TaylorR

          This made my day Rachel. Thank you very much! Can’t wait to watch your videos!

  • http://fitformyfork.wordpress.com Sam @ Fit for My Fork

    Great post! I think it’s so easy to look at people that look like the women on the magazines you posted and think ‘why can’t I look like that and still be normal and eat ice cream with everyone else?’. It’s their JOB to look like that. I have so much else going on in my life that I couldn’t be that dedicated even if I wanted to be. So thank you for the reminder that I don’t have to look like them – and probably won’t look like them – and that that is totally okay. :)

    • http://www.theartofweightlifting.com TaylorR

      Thanks Sam! I think it’s a reminder all of us need to remember, me included!

  • Elaine

    I really like this website… have been using it to get all sorts of ideas for ways to take my workouts further. It is a generous, level-headed approach to overall health and fitness. I am curious why you say not to eat mango, banana, or pineapple if you really want to lose weight, though?

    • http://www.theartofweightlifting.com TaylorR

      Great Elaine! The problem with those fruits is that they are high in sugar, and even though it’s all natural it still spikes blood sugar and promotes fat storage.

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  • http://liftingrevolution stephanie

    omg! All that you said was totally true. Ive been through every thing i used to weight 142 now im weighing about 129. I want to keep working my ass off but some days i dont feel happy with my body. I also have stretch marks from gaining weight when i was really young like 10-12 yrs old. Your article really motivated me! Now i will work out feeling great trying to get to a goal of at least 120 pounds (hopefully!) i can reach my goal! Im already seeing results by what friends and family say. I want to keep working hard but at the same time accept my body!
    thank you so much for the article!!!!! :) :)

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