I’m A Big Fat Fatty McFatterson: Why You Sabotage Your Own Results

by TaylorR

Over 90% of women have issues with their bodies. That’s normal, we’re human and we are always our own worst enemies.

No matter how often our husband tells us we are beautiful or we receive compliments from friends, we always have a twinge of self-doubt… do they mean it? Do they not see what I see?

But it’s that mental doubt and self talk that is likely hurting you and your results. I can’t tell you how many times I hear women call themselves fat, ugly and out of shape.

It makes me sad because if they are seeing me, it means they are taking action… they are one step closer to their goals then they were yesterday simply by getting to their workout.

Whether you’re fat or not, what good is it going to do to remind yourself of your flaws? Except to drive you mad, make you feel depressed, make you feel defeated, and deflated. The brain reacts with what you feed it… so if you focus on being fat, being out of shape and out of energy then guess how you’ll stay?

Yup… overweight, out of shape and out of energy.

But give yourself mental pep talks by staying positive and suddenly everything else will change too. Suddenly, you will have more of a drive to hit goals, you’ll be more excited about life and feel more confident, thinking to yourself “YES I CAN!

So no more “I’m a fatty” talk or “OMG, this cellulite is disgusting” chit chat with yourself.

Instead focus on what you’re doing or going to do (starting today) to change things. And all the awesome things going on in your life (which no matter how awful you think things are at times… there is always something good going on).

Think about the positive results that will come by taking it day by day.

Focus on what you love about yourself instead of what you hate. Even better, for every time you say you don’t like something about yourself… turn around and say two things you do like. Can you do it?

Let’s Practice: Self Love

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For example…

I don’t like my nose. I know it’s large, it is something I have been teased about my entire life, but it does give me character and personality I suppose. So that’s my “pick on myself”.

Now the fun stuff: 

I love my legs. They are strong, toned and help me to accomplish so much. From deadlifting 145 lbs (which I did on Tuesday) to running 13.1 miles straight… my legs have gotten me far in life. It doesn’t hurt that my husband loves them too :)

I also love my flat chest. Yup, I love not having big boobs. Back in the day when I was heavier I had D’s so I’ve been on both sides of the spectrum. I love being able to wear Target sports bras and that giving all the support I need. I love the freedom to run to the store in a t-shirt and no bra without feeling self-conscious that someone will notice I am going free. And I love that they don’t get in my way when I exercise, eat, or sit at a desk.

Love Yourself Every Day

Naturally, we want to pick at our weaknesses instead of our strengths. It’s the way a lot of us are conditioned. But just like above, this negative energy affects all aspects of life and success… from body image to jobs. It all floods over.

It’s time to change!

  • Every time you find yourself about to say something negative, change. If you start to say.. “I can’t” catch yourself and say “I’ll give it my all.” 9 out of 10 times you will find that you in fact can and even if you can’t at least you tried. Wow, does that make sense?
  • Every time you look in the mirror and want to say, “gosh I am fat” instead say… I am beautiful and working on becoming more gorgeous and more confortable in my own skin every day.”

It helps a lot to surround yourself with positive affirmations: quotes, audios, pictures, and people. I know it sounds so cheesy, but surround yourself with love and inspiration.

After a week or two, you’ll feel yourself uplifted and moving in a much more positive direction! And not just with your body but with life.

Happy Friday!

What’s your FAVORITE body part?

 

  • http://runprincipessa.com Amanda @ Run Principessa

    This post is what I needed today. No clever comment. Just a heartfelt thank you. :)

    • http://www.theartofweightlifting.com TaylorR

      no clever response <3

  • Tori

    First time commenting because this is the just the best way to start my day today!! :)

    Favorite body part: Can I have two? My booty and my arms. I love that I can lift more than friends who are taller, bigger than me. For some reason that makes me accomplished because they look stronger, but they aren’t ;) hoping that doesn’t sound rude!

    • http://www.theartofweightlifting.com TaylorR

      Yes you can definitely have two… three… four! As many as you want. So glad your day got off to a great start and I have to agree, I love the feeling of accomplishment from the same thing! Thanks for posting

  • Karen

    Struggling with the flu for the past 14 days has left me feeling decidedly frumpy and lazy, but just reading this has made me smile…Thanks!

  • Samantha

    I appreciate this post. You’re right- as women, we are so hard on ourselves. Even if there is something on our body we want to work on, there are so many other parts that are beautiful. And the only person obsessing over your flaws is you, no one else is!

    There are a couple parts of my body that I like: I like my bubble butt, and my shoulders. I have strong shoulders, and sometimes get reminded about it from others, but I think they are a result of the hard work I put in the gym. They’re not big, just toned, and I like them that way! :-)

  • Court

    Wonderful message. Especially for me who’s frustration over being overweight and lethargic feeds into me being overweight and lethargic. But today is a new day. I love my shoulders btw. Time to work them out now!

    • http://www.theartofweightlifting.com TaylorR

      Exactly! Today is a new day… so much time for improvement and love. Thanks for reading!

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