It’s Not Okay To Do Things Like A Girl
The video below popped up on my Facebook news feed last week.
At first I was just going to avoid it (like I seem to do with nearly all videos). I saw that it was created by a big company and assumed that it was overly fabricated to sell whatever they were selling.
But a friend I trusted had shared it, with the title… “Wow, every woman should watch this.”
Okay, I’m a woman… so I did.
And it was so true… it’s crazy…
She was right. Every woman should watch this.
While I’m still skeptical about the “rawness” of the video, the point Always was trying to make was apparent and oh so true. I don’t care if it was or wasn’t unscripted because the truth is…
It’s Not Cool To Be A Girl
(Preview of our boot camp field day yesterday)
For the past few weeks, my boot camp team has been trying to come up with awesome tank top ideas.
We’ve brainstormed some great one liners but from the get-go I’ve had one vision stuck in my head that I can’t shake.
Something along the lines of… “Just Because I’m A Girl Doesn’t Mean I Workout Like One.”
I just haven’t be able to articulate it the way I want (if you have any suggestions let me know).
The reason being that most spouses assume our classes are “girlie” and laid back. It’s not until we have “bring your spouse day” that their wives gain their respect… as they lay on the ground huffing and puffing, praying for the workout to be over while their wives are often running laps around them.
It’s hilarious and I love it.
This was before the video, so I felt it was a bit ironic and at first I even felt guilty about my idea.
Here I am, a strong, independent woman, wanting to make other women feel strong and independent yet telling them it’s not cool to be a girl…
Or am I?
Are You A Girl Or A Woman?
Not at all. I see myself as a woman motivating others to be the real woman they can be.
Running like a girl isn’t a good thing, but neither is running like a boy. Call a guy a boy, and they are very quick to say they’re a man.
I don’t want to run like a girl.
I don’t want to fight like a girl.
I don’t want to act like a girl.
And you should be too.
At least, I would think you would agree with me right?
One thing I’ve learned from working with women, is that unlike boys who learn to do things “manly” early on, women aren’t given those lessons unless they consciously seek them out.
I have 40 year old woman who have never learned how to run without flinging their arms. It’s not their fault that they still ran like a “girl”.
After a few lessons, they change quickly and began running like women.
How To Be Womanly
I think that the biggest differences between doing something “girlie” and doing something “womanly” are:
The confidence to just not give a you-know-what when someone calls you out. The confidence to carry your head high, shoulders back and radiate strength and awesomeness.
You can only move from being a girl to being a woman through learning. Right?
If you run like a girl, create bitchy drama like a girl, or whatever like a girl… recognize it and learn how to improve. Make the jump from girl-hood to womanhood.
I’ve talked about this before, we aren’t very good at supporting one another. Guys are.
They have an unspoken bro-bond that women don’t naturally have.
We need to come together more often and help each other out!
In high school and college, I was a terrible runner. People often made fun of me. Since then, I’ve made it my goal to never have my workouts look “girly”. However, I am an emotional person and I do cry like a girl quite often. Not around other people, but Dan has to deal with it a lot!