The Naked Truth: I Kind Of Hate The “Love Your Body” Trend
*This post contains my personal progress pictures and real time workout shots. Not to discourage others or to compare one body to another but to share my experiences, thoughts and personal progress. I thought this post would be more “real” with pictures I keep of my own personal journey. I hope you agree.
2016 kicked off a new movement for women and body image…
The: “Love your body” movement was born.
The premise, as I am sure you’re aware of…
…is to love your body right now.
Whether you’re the fittest woman on the the planet or if you have 200 pounds to lose.
Love your body.
No matter what our size is, there is something beautiful in the reflection it gives.
Loving our bodies is about loving ourselves, unconditionally… inside and out. Forget about why your pants are tight or how if you tilt your head down, a double chin forms. We are more than imperfections we see. We are amazing creatures that are strong and capable.
Yes, all of us!
And our bodies DO NOT DEFINE.
It’s a powerful message, right?
One that I love, and respect.
But I also kind of hate it. A lot.
Hear me out on this one before I receive hate mail from beautiful women all over the world…
The true meaning of the movement is awesome and when taken as it’s meant to be, a perfect motivator to better yourself.
Yet… we’re human and often times we take it for what we want to take it as. Whether it’s out of laziness or “settling”…
And that’s the “Love Your Body” angle that I am not happy with.
The Settling For The Current
This flaw in the movement is not with everyone, of course.
But I have witnessed it first hand as a gym owner, a fitness advocate and someone that just reads shit (blog comments are oh so fun sometimes).
It seriously needs to be addressed. Like now.
The problem is that some women are taking the meaning literally.
Love your body how it is RIGHT NOW and ACCEPT it.
This saddens my heart.
50 pounds overweight?
Well… I’ll just love myself 50 pounds overweight and settle. I’ll accept that this is my body and though it’s not healthy, it’s perfect as is because it’s mine. And my body is perfect. This is they way I’m “supposed” to be.
Um, that’s not quite what the love your body movement is about.
And can I quickly address this “supposed to be” argument? I’ve heard it time and time and time again. Who made the rules and pointed at each person announcing:
“This is the way you’re supposed to be! Get over it and accept it!”
No one! You are in charge of that decision.
It’s not about settling. It’s not about letting go. It’s not about being satisfied with where you are.
I don’t remember the quote, but it goes something like, “When you stop striving to be better, you give up on life.”
Yup. I think that’s 173% true.
A life without progress is extremely boring. That pretty much equates to sitting on the couch all day binge watching Netflix and eating a bag of chips.
What is it about?
– It’s about loving yourself enough to want to be better.
– It’s about accepting where you are today, but not where you can be tomorrow.
– It’s about SELF love as opposed to obsessing over the girl next to you on the treadmill. You know the one… she’s thin, doesn’t have a single cellulite dimple and is toned from squatting MAYBE 15 lb dumbbells. Trust me, she’s comparing herself to you and picking out the things she wishes she had.
– It’s about creating your own individual journey with self motivation, goals, and reasons.
Accepting Your Body Today But Not Tomorrow
I heard a metaphor a few weeks ago in the book, Practicing Mind, that I can not get out of my head.
It’s like a Taylor Swift song, except instead of yelling, “get out of my head”, I’m praying that it stays there…
I’ve shared it with boot campers, friends, in emails, even in a previous post but today I want to elaborate on it a bit more.
Your body is like a flower.
At what stage is a flower perfect?
Ever stopped to think about it?
When it’s a seed, it’s perfect at being a seed. It doesn’t sit under a layer of moist dirt doubting it’s abilities to sprout. It doesn’t say, “how the hell am I going to get out of this mess? I’m so small and the dirt is so heavy.”
No, it just does it’s perfect little thing to become a perfect little sprout. Then it grows taller, stronger and becomes a perfect bud.
From there that bud turns into a beautiful flower. That is in fact, perfect.
Once the flower blooms and spreads it’s pollen, it’s perfect at becoming more dirt for the next little seed.
Every stage of the flower is perfect… and you are too.
If you’re out of shape right now, you’re perfect at being out of shape.
That feeling of being out of shape helps you to push to be in better shape. It’s where you need to be right now to have the drive to be better!
As you get in better shape, you begin to see just what your body is capable of. You experience the exercise momentum and find that you can set even B-I-G-G-E-R goals.
That’s the place you’re supposed to be at that moment.
If you eat crap all the time, that’s okay for today.
Because the feelings of low energy and sugar headaches encourage you to tweak your diet for tomorrow. Knowing what it feels like to live off a poor diet, makes you appreciate a clean one 100x more.
Each step of our path to a better body and better lifestyle is laid out how it’s supposed to be. Each day take one step forward.
If I Accepted My Body
If I accepted my body for the way it is, I would just sit back and do the same workout every single day.
Why improve when I could put minimal work into maintaining what I have now?
If I accepted my body for the way it is, I would have no goals.
I wouldn’t have signed up the Tactical Strength Challenge (holy smokes did I really sign up for this?), I wouldn’t have signed up for 2 50 Ks and I sure as heck wouldn’t have pushed myself as hard as I did yesterday with the soreness I am feeling today.
And I sure as hell wouldn’t be able to encourage other women to strive to be a better version of themselves.
I wouldn’t be able to do my job. Live out my passions. Live my fitness.
That’s boring and shitty.
I will never accept myself the way I am today.
I APPRECIATE who I am but know that tomorrow is a new me and a new opportunity to be BETTER.
How To Love Your Body
Let’s end on this…
You can love your body by treating it the best you can.
You only get one so make it last.
Love your body so much that you take it for workouts.
Love your body so much that you fill it with foods that enrich it and make it feel better. If you’re curious the egg bowl above is the Bomb.com! Brussel sprouts, teeny tiny potatoes, onions, 2 eggs and some hot sauce!
Love your body so much that you don’t settle for where you are right now.
Love your body so much that you show it respect, rest and love.
Why is it that we wouldn’t think twice about our dogs… we walk them, we give them special foods and yank away food they get ahold of that we think are bad for them?
Yet, when it comes to our own bodies we have such a hard time treating it love and care.
And that brings me to the final thought and magical word.
Loving your body means you care for it.
Think about it.
What is something that you’re striving for right now?
I just finished week 4 of training for my first kettlebell/weight lifting competition! I’m striving to do 20 pull-ups, 120 snatches (5 minutes) and a 275-lb deadlift!
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