Why You Should NEVER Want To LOSE Weight – Yes I Am Serious

by TaylorR

When I say the following sentences, let me know what emotions are conjured up.

  • Losing keys.
  • Your favorite sports team losing.
  • Losing a job.
  • Losing a loved one.
  • Let me guess…

These all brought upon feelings of frustration, disappointment and sadness?

To think about losing anything immediately brings up negative emotions.

Except for weight loss.

We want to lose weight… or do we?

Our body is extremely responsive to positivity and negativity… a lot more than we give it credit for.

Try this out:

Read the following words out loud (it works better if you actually say them out loud):

Smile, happiness, joy, love, excitement, pride, success, victory, beautiful, laughter, hugs, kisses, amazing, and empowered.

How do you feel?

I’m not sure about you, but just typing the words put a smile on my face. I was overcome with a feeling of happiness.

Now… what happens when you read these words:

Loss, ugly, sadness, tears, fat, depressed, frown, disappointment…

Okay, enough of that, you get the point.

Let’s recover. Enough of the downer words!

love, smile, outstanding, talented and gorgeous.

If loss is such a negative word and conjures up such strong feelings, then why would we want to lose anything at all?

We don’t.

Here’s What I Think About Being “Real” Positive

The more you tell yourself that you want to lose weight, your brain takes that “lose” as negative self-talk and makes it harder. It makes it a depressive action to do.

Your internal stress increases and you find yourself constantly quitting because losing weight is no fun, always filled with temptation, saying “this will never work for me”, and on and on.

Talk about bad ju-ju and a bad hormone dump!

So most people stop. Restart. Stop again (because it’s a horrible experience). Restart again (because who doesn’t want to be healthy and feel great about themselves?)

Negative self talk is limiting and may be the difference between getting to a healthy weight and being stuck where you are or losing the weight only to gain it back again.

careful-listning

Then there is this…

When you lose something, there is a chance you can find it. With the exception of losing a loved one… loss can be temporary.

You don’t want to just lose weight and then find it again in the future… which is what happens to over 90% of weight loss stories.

You want to drop it like a bad habit and never see it again. That’s the goal!

Your Brains Bottom line…

Your brain takes things literally. Even though you know that losing weight is good, it’s harder to convince the subconscious.

If You Don’t “Lose” Weight… How Do You Lose Weight Get Healthy?

Good question.

You hit your goal but gaining…

Instead of focusing on the scale, which I know is really hard (I struggle with this too… a lot!), try focus on this…

  • Gaining health (thanks Lindsay)
  • Gaining nutrition
  • Gaining fitness
  • Gaining life
  • Gaining strength! (what I’m focused on right now)

weighted-pullups

Pull-up and push-up workout with a weighted bag.  It’s official, my husband is trying to kill me.

I can promise you, if you focus on the benefits you gain from watching what you eat and exercising, you will see and feel your body getting to that goal zone you crave.

Watch This – Think About It In Terms of Fitness & Living Healthy:

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Here’s How To Think Positive On A Normal Basis

For many, this is done by setting performance goals… signing up for a race or fitness event that requires training of some sort.

For others, it can mean following not just a low calorie diet, but a nutritional program that educates on long term eating. Anyone can cut calories for a few weeks,
few people can transition into eating long term to keep success locked in.

It’s one thing to tell yourself to think positively.

It’s tough, and not something that just happens over night. It takes practice, study, and…

And it takes continuous effort.

As soon as you think you’re a “gainer” and you give up on practicing to become one, those loser words will creep back in. I know, I’ve been working on positive mind set for years!

The process is never over.

Here Are Some Tips You Must Start Using Today (or Reading Today!)

  • Each time you feel a negative “loser” work creeping up, stop and rephrase your sentence to have a positive word instead.
  • Start the day off reinforcing what it is you want to gain that day… what do you want to accomplish?
  • End the day going over all the positive things that happened. Be gracious. We all have good things happen every day, even on days when it doesn’t seem like it! Getting out of bed is a gain!
  • Study. Yes, seriously read some mind set books, listen to some podcasts, and even take notes! I know, I know, some can be hokey but there are some great resources out there. Here are two books that I recommend getting started with:
  • An amazing book that puts all of this to real science is The Happiness Advantage… read it. You’ll love it.
  • A little hokey, but super important when you think about how we all “normally” talk to ourselves. What To Say When You Talk To Yourself.
  • Super powerful book. It will change everything about how you think. The War of Art.

Let’s chat. Complete the following…

At the end of a workout, I love feeling as if gained ______________.

 

  • Mollie K.

    another great post! love love love.

    • http://www.fitwomensweekly.com TaylorR

      Thank you Mollie!

  • http://abs-of-steel.com Abi@AbsofSteel

    I love this point! Whenever I hear people talking about wanting to lose weight I always tell them that losing weight doesn’t matter. If they are taking care of their bodies by eating well and exercising then they will naturally get to whatever weight they’re supposed to be. It’s such a poor indicator of health compared to some of the other amazing things you can gain. I almost always feel like I gain a better sense of clarity after a workout.

    • http://www.fitwomensweekly.com TaylorR

      Thanks Abi! I am right there with you, there is nothing like the feeling of awesomeness and zen, somehow at the same time, that comes after a workout!

  • http://www.runtothefinish.com Amanda @runtothefinish

    Fist pumping, yes, yes, yes!

    • http://www.fitwomensweekly.com TaylorR

      YES! :)

  • http://wheres-the-beach.blogspot.com/ Heather (Where’s the Beach)

    I absolutely LOVE this post! I just shared with some of my clients even. Thank you thank you!!!

    • http://www.fitwomensweekly.com TaylorR

      Thank you so much Heather! I Hope the enjoy it!

  • http://babskieblabla.blogspot.com/ Dora

    I really need to work on myself… Sometimes I’m a big grumpy:)

    • http://www.fitwomensweekly.com TaylorR

      We are all a bit grumpy from time to time, and we all need to work on ourselves! You’re not alone :)

  • http://girlgoneveggie.com Erin @ Girl Gone Veggie

    I love this! I want to gain body confidence and muscle!

    • http://www.fitwomensweekly.com TaylorR

      Yes!! You can do it! Happy Friday!

  • http://www.supplementsformusclegain.com/ Chris

    Excellent post, i love your stuff! So motivational :)

    • http://www.fitwomensweekly.com TaylorR

      Thanks Chris! Have a great weekend!

  • http://www.frenchinspirationblog.com Karen – Fit in France

    Love the post, thanks !

    • http://www.fitwomensweekly.com TaylorR

      Thanks Karen!

  • Kimi P

    Well said! It is like saying “Remember to take your bag” instead of “Don’t forget to take your bag”. Saying ” forget” might psychologically make me forget. Thanks for posting.

    • http://www.fitwomensweekly.com TaylorR

      Why, thank you ma’am! Miss ya!

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